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Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey!

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

Despite RuPaul and Geri Halliwell crooning that Mother Nature is a woman too, she has never once made it rain men nor has she been overly generous with her kind.

In fact, if you ask me, I’d say she has been a tad bit mean to us girls. I mean draw up a list of all ailments known to mankind, and you will find that women are more susceptible to at least 75% of them.

Let me get to the case in point here, which will cement my argument further. While the manly parts are appendages, the girl bits are all flaps and orifice. With appendages, a bit of handling is all it takes to understand the problem (the pun was totally unintentional).

However, with an orifice, you need to go in to get the problem out. Fortunately, although belatedly, Mother Nature did give some of our girly woes a thought and created a self-cleansing and maintenance system for the vayjayjay.

A lot of ladies out there may take umbrage to me addressing their downtown sephora majora, as a flower or even a lady garden, simply because those terms give the impression of being grossly delicate.

And the one thing your vag is not, is delicate. I mean the ol’ cooch can handle everything from tampons to a penis and from a speculum to a 7-lb baby. So, that’s one tough gal down there.

But, then something happens and your fancy bit loses its fancy for life and goes all dry. Now, this is where the flower euphemism works perfectly. You know what happens to a flower without water, right?

OK, your labia are not going to fall off like petals, but you know how the slightest touch can bruise a dried and withered flower?

Well, your vag is going to be just like that. Even if a roll in the hay is not on the cards (although it should always be on the cards but more on that in another article), you need your girly bits to be happy and hydrated or it is going to cause you a lot of trouble.

So, ladies let me welcome you to one of my exclusive, “for-girls only” essential oil segments. I am Olivia and today I am going to talk about how to keep your vayjayjay happy and hydrated.

We will discuss the problem of vaginal dryness, its causes and of course several essential oil recipes and home treatments that help to keep the love juices flowing. So, pour yourself a glass of your favorite fruit juice, kick off those heels, and get ready to spend some time with your gal pal from down under (and I don’t mean Australia here).

How Does The Vagina And Its Lubricating Mechanism Work?

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

While a lot of men out there (and really boys I am not getting on your case here, I promise) have measured their joystick, few women have ever actually taken a mirror to their fancy bit. In fact, although the vagina is a source of great pleasure and more, most of us girls have a stark sense of apathy towards this organ.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that the majority of us find our girl bits abnormal or ugly. Really, there is a site devoted to “vaginas of the world” with pictures and all just meant to tell us that what we have down there is completely normal. I believe I have made my point here. So, I am never surprised when women don’t know the first thing about their vaginas.

Hence, we will start with the basics. Let us talk about why your gal bits have to be wet/moisturized. The corrugated tissue that forms the walls of your vagina is the same as skin on the inside of your cheek.

So, you know how saliva is needed to keep the inner lining of your cheeks hydrated?

Well, your vagina needs the same kind of lubrication and let us not forget that it handles a lot more contact than the insides of your cheeks. So, the need for lubrication down south is just as much or even greater than the need up north.

Your body handles this requirement with about ½ – 1 tsp of mucus discharge each day. This lubrication comes courtesy of the glands on the cervix (the opening of the uterus). Once it is secreted, the mucus gradually coats all the parts of the vagina, moving slowly down the vaginal canal.

In the process, it also removes dead cells and bacteria from the vagina, thus acting like a self-cleansing mechanism. The dead cells are normal because it is a part of the body’s renewal process, while the bacteria are native to the vagina. These are the good guys that help to keep infections out. In time, they die and have to be flushed out and the mucus handles this job.

When you are aroused, 2 glands at the vaginal opening (Bartholins glands) provide the extra lubrication needed for intercourse. Normal vaginal discharge can vary greatly both in quantity and quality, from woman to woman and through the menstrual cycle.

In terms of volumes, the mucus quantity peaks around ovulation. As far as the quality is concerned, normal vaginal discharge is colorless/white, has the slightest odor (not really foul odor), and is either watery or like saliva.

Because the mucus exits the body gradually through the day, you may see a few white stains on your panties or feel a bit of wetness, but otherwise your vag does nothing that will distract you. In other words, it is not vaginal lubrication but the lack of it that can cause problems.

Misconceptions About Vaginal Dryness!

The general perception is that vaginal dryness appears around and after menopause. Yes, almost menopausal women do complain of vaginal dryness along with a host of other symptoms that are directly linked to a drop in estrogen levels.

In fact, any fluctuation in the levels of this hormone, regardless of the reason, can cause vaginal dryness. So, the lack of natural vaginal lubrication is certainly not a menopause-specific symptom. Actually, almost 20% of women between the ages of 15-60 suffer from vaginal dryness.

Another faulty assumption is that vaginal lubrication is only needed when you have sex on your mind. Remember, vaginal secretions not only keep the vaginal canal clean but also moisturize the walls of the vagina. Because hydrated, in this case, also means healthy and protected, the mucus is needed all the time, not just at play time.

Is it Vaginal Dryness Or Something Else?

Lack of vaginal lubrication can be your only feminine problem, or it may come with a host of other symptoms depending on the underlying cause. While the term, “vaginal dryness” is self-explanatory, the condition itself does not come to light till the other symptoms are felt. If the quantity of vaginal mucus is less than optimal, you will experience:

  • Soreness and burning in and around the vagina.
  • Pain during intercourse.
  • Reduction in sex drive.
  • Very mild vaginal discharge even after foreplay and arousal.
  • Light bleeding/staining after intercourse.
  • Trouble getting aroused and/or reaching orgasm.
  • Narrowing of the vaginal opening.
  • Frequent bouts of UTI (urinary tract infection).
  • Burning or pain after peeing.
  • Frequent need to urinate.
  • Thinning of the labia and the vaginal skin.
  • Paleness of the vulva and the vagina

Top 12 Factors That Cause Vaginal Dryness?

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

1. Menopause

This one is the first on the list because it is the most common cause of vaginal dryness. As mentioned earlier, a drop in estrogen levels is responsible for all the problems that raise their head around menopause, including the lack of vaginal moisture.

In fact, the effect of plummeting estrogen levels goes far beyond just mucus production. It actually causes the thinning and inflammation of the vaginal walls (vaginal atrophy). This has a direct impact on mucus secretion.

2. Menstruation

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

Because estrogen levels also dip while you are on your period, this is the time when mucus production plunges, causing vaginal dryness. Although you will notice this when trying to insert a tampon, the flow of blood tends to mask the problem at other times.

3. Breastfeeding

Right after you give birth, your body is completely focused on providing care for the newborn hence estrogen is not the need of the hour. With less estrogen, you get less vaginal lubrication. But, all of this only lasts till you wean your child. At this time, your body goes back to preparing for the next pregnancy.

Since sex turns into a requirement and vaginal lubrication is needed for intercourse, your estrogen levels soar and your vagina goes back to being its well-moisturized self again.

However, in some women, vaginal dryness persists even when they are no longer nursing. This happens due to temporary hormonal imbalance after pregnancy and childbirth and does not last for more than a few weeks. But if it does, then you should seek advice from your doctor.

4. Contraception

Some contraceptive products are also known to cause vaginal dryness because of their extreme and almost sudden impact on estrogen levels. However, the effect seldom lasts long. Typically, contraceptive injections, some IUDs and combined contraceptive pills will have this effect on your body.

5. Medication and chemotherapy

Antihistamines, beta blockers, diuretics and antihypertensive drugs are among a long list of medication that cause vaginal dryness.

If you are not anywhere near your menopause and if the lack of lubrication is a sudden development that coincides with the use of newly prescribed meds, talk to your doctor about this symptom. Chemotherapy has a similar effect as it impacts the overall secretion of mucus in various organs of the body.

6. Any impact to the ovaries

The two almond-shaped organs not only produce the egg but also the feminine hormones needed for fertility. So, anything that impacts the ovaries has a direct bearing on the secretion of both estrogen and vaginal mucus. Hence, both surgical removal of ovaries and the side effects of cancer treatment on them leads to vaginal dryness.

7. Cigarettes and alcohol

Smoking puts a lot of toxins in your body and circulation is one of the physiological systems that bears the brunt of this addiction. A decrease in circulation leads to a reduction in mucus secretion all over the body, including the vagina.

Alcohol works a bit differently. First, it impacts the center of your brain that interprets inputs from your sense of touch, which means even stimulation won’t yield the usual results. Second, it causes dehydration, which means there simply isn’t enough water to go around.

8. Douching

For some reason, the idea of vag-washing has gained immense traction among women in the age group of 15-44, with as many 25% of the ladies using vaginal douche bags regularly. I have only one thing to say to them – Never try to fix something that isn’t broken.

In this case, don’t try to wash the organ that has a self-cleansing mechanism in place and isn’t dirty to begin with. Actually ladies, you are doing your girly bits great disservice with douching because you are washing out the natural lubrication and the vaginal flora, leaving you vayjayjay vulnerable to all sorts of critter attacks. So, lay off the douching already!

9. Irritants of any kind

Your vag is an all-natural girl, so she gets disturbed not only by the use of soap and douches but also by lotions, perfumes, perfumed talc and basically anything that isn’t 100% natural. The irritation causes inflammation, which directly impacts the secretion of mucus.

10. Certain autoimmune conditions

Basically, any ailment that causes a disruption in the secretion of mucus will cause vaginal dryness. But one disorder in particular that is known to cause extreme dryness of the vagina, nose and mouth is Sjogren’s syndrome. Fortunately, this is a rare disorder, so most of us don’t have to worry too much about it.

11. Stress, anxiety and everything that causes mental disturbances

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

Let me put it this way – if your noggin is worked up, all the systems and organs in your body get affected, your vag included. Although nobody is sure about how stress causes all this trouble, what they do know is that it leads to crazy fluctuations in hormone levels.

Since your feminine hormones have to be at optimal levels for your vag to gets its daily dose of moisture, any problem with hormone levels will impact the vagina.

12. Lack of arousal

This may be the last on my list but by no means is it the least. In fact, the only reason I did not discuss this one earlier is because it only impacts the secretion that come into play at play time and not the normal vaginal mucus levels.

Let me do a bit of straight talking here. Things on third base will never be comfortable unless you got the first and second base covered. I also want to clarify that we all have our own triggers. While some of us gals are happy with foreplay alone, others need more.

No shame in asking for what you need. If fantasies, naughty talk or anything else gets you all hot and worked up, go for it. Hey, whatever rocks your boat is great here. So, don’t shy away from it.

Does Vaginal Dryness Merit A Visit To The Doctor?

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

Yes it does, particularly if you are also experiencing some of the other symptoms discussed above and are close to menopause. A simple pelvic exam will be enough to determine the problem.

However, if you allow your coyness to stop you from seeking medical attention in this matter, you will simply be opening the pathway for a lot of other health and life problems. For example, vaginal dryness can cause:

Vaginal rips and tears

These are among the most common types of sexual injuries and are directly linked to the lack of lubrication. Apart from pain, these injuries can and do cause bleeding, which means an open wound where you cannot see or reach it. Just like any other cut/rip, this creates a passage for infection causing critters to get deeper into the tissue and the body.

Painful sex and the lack of desire

When sex goes from pleasure to pain, it has a knock-on effect. A few such sessions down the line and your brain starts associating the act with discomfort and develops an aversion for it. So, you just won’t be in the mood for any action.

To add to your woes and that of your partner, if the vaginal dryness is menopause related, you can be sure that when the estrogen level plunges, it will send both your vaginal lubrication levels as well as your libido crashing to the ground. So, your sex life is dealt a double whammy there.

Urinary discomfort and infection

The female urethral opening is just above the vaginal opening, so any movement of the vaginal walls causes the skin around this smaller orifice to move as well. Intercourse leads to some amount of stretching and pulling of the vulva, which, in turn, marginally stimulates the clitoris and leads to an orgasm in some women.

When there is enough lubrication, there is never the risk of too much friction. But when things are dry down there, intercourse damages the vaginal walls and causes inflammation of the urethral opening, as the labia rub against the urethral opening more than they should. When there is inflammation, there is always the risk of an infection. In both cases, you will experience burning and pain when urinating.

Bladder infections

Once the critters pass the urethral opening and get inside the tube that leads to the bladder, there is little to stop them from making their upward journey and infecting the bladder.

Finally, let us not forget that sexual issues can seriously damage a relationship. So, don’t let a completely treatable condition cause problems in your life. If the vaginal dryness is severe and lasts for more than a few days/weeks at the most, see your doctor to understand what is causing the lack of lubrication.

What Are The Treatment Options Available For Vaginal Dryness?

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits


When your body is not producing something that it needs, you simply have to supply it from the outside. We do that with vitamins and nutrients, then why not with vaginal moisture?

Usually, water-based gels are the first recommendation to deal with vaginal dryness and its complications. However, these lubricants only work for a few hours at a time. So, they are great for sex but it can be irritating to reapply them through the day.

Vaginal administration of estrogen

This can be done with creams that have low doses of estrogen in them (Premarin or Estrace) or through vaginal rings infused with estrogen (Estring) or through vaginal inserts/tablets (Vagifem). The products have to be used every day and in progressively increasing doses till a certain estrogen level is reached and then twice a week.

Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)

This is just another method to stabilize or increase plunging estrogen levels by supplying an artificial form of the hormone from the outside. That’s pretty much what you try to accomplish with vaginal products as well, except that in case of HRT, the doses of estrogen are significantly higher, which leads to a lot of terrible side effects.

In fact, no doctor would ever recommend HRT for mere vaginal dryness. Their guarded approach should be enough to tell you that there are some serious risks involved in this form of treatment.

Why Bother With Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness When You Already Have So Many Options?

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

Lubricants do offer reprieve from vaginal dryness, but they don’t work as well when the lack of moisture is attributed to menopause. Yes, you can use them for playtime but as I’ve discussed above, vaginal lubrication is required for more than just pleasurable intercourse. Unfortunately, these formulations don’t help on any other front.

Moreover, they often contain chemical preservatives, which may lead to irritation and allergies. At best, these products are a superficial and temporary solution to a problem that obviously calls for a more inclusive approach.

Also, these formulations do absolutely nothing to control the inflammation of the vaginal walls nor do they help in improving the health of the vaginal tissue.

As far as vaginal estrogen administration is concerned, this is typically recommended when the dryness is caused by hormonal fluctuations, more specifically menopause. Regardless of the product that you choose, you are basically pumping a cancer-causing substance in your body, just in low doses. Yes, artificial estrogen has been linked to abnormalities in the breast tissue and the endometrial cells.

Doctors will tell you that because these products contain a very small amount of estrogen, you have nothing to worry about. But, let us not forget one thing here – these formulations have to be used indefinitely, meaning for the rest of your life.

So, the logical question is, would this not eventually lead to a build-up of the carcinogenic substance in the body?

Moreover, if you check out the manufacturers’ websites, you will find a long list of side effects that includes vomiting and nausea, diarrhea, depression, change in sex drive, nipple discharge, breast tenderness, weight changes, headache, nasal congestion, acne, hyper-pigmentation, hair loss, increase in facial hair and more.

And that leaves us with the last option – HRT! All I am going to say about this is that the effects of the estrogen used in this form of treatment are so dangerous that they have to use progestin (synthetic or natural) to offset them. But, the problem is that synthetic progestin comes with its own set of side effects.

Why Do Essential Oils Work When All Else Fails?

Think of it this way, just like the skin on your face and on the rest of your body benefits greatly from the topical application of essential oils, so will the inner lining of the vagina.

The anti-inflammatory properties of these plant extracts are well known along with their ability to heal damaged tissue and spur cellular turnover. These properties can help greatly to deal with the thinning of the vaginal walls and the redness and inflammation, which are typical signs of menopause.

Moreover, these oils also offer protection from microorganisms. In the absence of the natural vaginal flora, these oils help to keep infections at bay. Because these volatile oils are always mixed with carriers, they provide lubrication as well as moisturization that helps to retain tissue integrity. So, they certainly offer far more than you run of mill, water based lubricants and creams.

Now, let me talk about their famed/fabled phytoestrogenic effects. No, these oils do not contain natural/plant based hormones or even hormone-like substances. They also do not mimic the hormone nor do they help to enhance the secretion of estrogen/progestin directly.

However, they do have an impact on the endocrine system in general, which include the pituitary glands. Once these glands are stimulated, they release steroid hormones in the body, which, in turn, impact the ovaries and lead to the secretion of estrogen. Now, it is not clear if this effect also works when the ovaries are about to retire.

Quite frankly, there is ample anecdotal evidence to back the efficacy of essential oils as potential treatments for menopause and all of its symptoms. They have also been used to deal with nearly all problems linked to menstruation. However, there isn’t enough clinical evidence simply because people have not studied these extracts as much as they should have.

It’s also worth mentioning here that the plants from which these oils are derived as well as the essential oils themselves have been used for centuries in both India and China to treat menopause symptoms, infertility and irregular menstruation. So, they definitely deserve a chance.

Recommended Product For Vaginal Dryness

Let me introduce the L’orpur Vaginal Moisturizing Cream! No, not the one that you use on your face. This exceptional formulation specially meant for your lady bits contains no artificial colors, fragrances, or preservatives and is paraben-free. It has been formulated with essential oils, carrier oils, vitamins and wild yam.

Wild yam is used as a natural alternative to estrogen therapy, so you will see it used for estrogen replacement therapy, vaginal dryness, PMS, menstrual cramps, weak bones (osteoporosis), and more.

The all-natural L’orpur Vaginal Moisturizing Cream is made up of natural coconut extract, wild yam extract; oils of aloe vera, avocado, sunflower, jojoba, sea buckthorn, rosehip; essential oils of carrot seed, lemon and sweet orange; chamomile extract, vitamins A, D & E.

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits


Best 8 Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

1. Jasmine

The fragrance is enticing as are all the benefits that this essential oil brings to the table. A uterine tonic and aphrodisiac with the ability to distress and relax you, jasmine oil and even the tiny white blooms have been used for ages as a natural way to heat things up in the bedroom.

2. Clary sage

Although its estrogenic effects have neither been studied nor understood, the fact is that millions of women over hundreds of years have successfully used Clary Sage essential oil to treat menopause problems as well as fertility and menstrual issues. If we give due weightage to anecdotal evidence, then this oil does modulate hormone levels in the body and does increase the secretion of estrogen through the pituitary pathway.

3. Lemon

You may already know that lemon essential oil offers impressive benefits when used on the skin, all thanks to its ability to heal and restore the dermal layers as well as its anti-inflammatory properties.

Well, this extract can offer the same soothing protection to the vagina. It can also help to boost immunity, treat indigestion, cramps, balance the endocrine system and hormone production.

4. Fennel

Another oil that has long held the reputation of offering phytoestrogenic effects, this one is still used in several Ayurvedic formulations made to strengthen the female reproductive system and to sort post pregnancy and even fertility issues.

In fact, fennel essential oil it is considered one of the most potent natural substances to kick-start sluggish estrogen production owing to the high concentration of anethole in it.

5. Rosemary

Although this essential oil  is prized for its antioxidant and anti-microbial properties, what most people don’t know is that it also has the ability to stimulate the adrenal cortex. This is a secondary source of estrogen in the body and one that gains importance once the ovaries call it a day.

So, rosemary essential oil can prove to be very effective when menopause-linked estrogen deficiency is the cause of vaginal dryness.

6. Sweet Orange

This restorative oil with its wonderfully uplifting aroma helps to calm the mind, boosts libido and promotes the secretion of vaginal mucus. It also doubles up as a uterine tonic and is known to balance hormone levels and regulate menstruation.

7. Coriander

According to Ayurveda, this oil can subdue all three doshas and restore calm and harmony in the body. It is frequently used as a tonic for the endocrine system and to increase estrogen levels. A natural aphrodisiac, coriander essential oil is also known to stimulate the secretion of vaginal moisture.

8. Carrot Seed

Another oil that is prized for its anti-oxidant and healing benefits, this extract has also been used for centuries as a possible phytoestrogen that remedies scanty periods (making it less painful and more regular) and clears obstructions in the womb.

Along with these essential oils, we will also be using geranium, rose, myrrh, basil, lavender, chamomile, vetiver and ylang ylang essential oils for their abilities to regulate hormonal production and function, enhance vaginal mucus secretions and for their aphrodisiac effects.

Top 5 Essential Oil Recipes For Vaginal Dryness

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

1. A soothing blend for a vag that craves moisture


  • 40 ml avocado oil
  • 1 tsp flaxseed oil
  • 2 vitamin E caps
  • 2 drops each rose otto or Damascus, lavender and fennel essential oils
  • 1 drop each clary sage and lemon essential oil 


Mix the avocado oil and the flaxseed oil in a medium sized bowl. Cut open two vitamin E caps and add the oily contents to the lipid blend in the bowl. Mix in the essential oil and use a glass stirrer or a wooden chopstick to whisk the oils. Apply this oil, 1-2 times a day on the vulva, inside the labia, on the vaginal opening and inside the vagina.

Use your finger to apply inside the vaginal canal or soak a regular tampon in the oil and insert. Keep it inside the vagina for 2-5 minutes and then remove and discard. This blend is exceptionally effective as a vaginal lubricant at any time or before sex. Whatever may be the reason for the lack of vaginal moisture, this unique mix of essential oils and carrier oils will offer lubrication and stimulate the natural secretion of vaginal mucus.

2. A “facial” for menopause-stricken girly bits!


  • 30 ml calendula infused oil
  • 1 vitamin E cap
  • 10 ml red clover oil
  • 2 drops each of carrot seed and basil essential oils
  • 3 drops each geranium, coriander and jasmine essential oils


Same as Recipe 1.

3. Diffuser blend for hormonal balance

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits


  • 5 drops each of geranium, lavender and vetiver essential oils
  • 7 drops each of basil and clary sage essential oil 
  • 4 drops rosemary essential oil 


Mix the oils and store in a dark glass bottle. Use about 8-10 drops in a diffuser of your choice or 4-5 drops for steam inhalation. This recipe can also be used to make a bath blend. Simply mix 12-15 drops of the essential oil with a teaspoon of milk. Run a hot bath and add the mixture to the water. Agitate to disperse the lipids and then enjoy a good 20-30 minute soak.

4. A vaginal suppository for long lasting relief from dryness, burning and pain


  • 40 ml organic cocoa butter
  • 1 drop each of basil, rosemary, fennel, clary sage essential oils
  • 2 drops each of rose or geranium and myrrh essential oils


You can use adult suppository molds available online for this. To make a mold at home, wrap aluminum foil, about 3-4 rounds, around the handle of a wooden spoon. The handle should not be thicker than your pinky. Remove the spoon handle and fold one end of the mold to close it. Place it in a glass cup to make it stand upright, so you can pour the lipid mixture into it.

If you want to give this recipe a shot before whipping up a large batch, I recommend using 2-3 baby pacifiers/ baby bottle nipples. Place the pacifier in the ice cube tray with the open end up. Pour the blend, filling the pacifiers half way through or till you reach the wider circle on top. Keep in the refrigerator to set and then simply squeeze the suppositories out.

The homemade aluminum mold will be quite long. As with the other molds, you will have to place this in the refrigerator to set. Remove after an hour and tear off the foil. Cut the hardened blend into 1-inch pieces and store in a clean glass jar under refrigeration.

To make the blend, melt the plant butter in a double boiler or use a pyrex container placed in a pan/cooking pot filled 2/3rd with water and place this pan/pot on heat. In both cases, you have to wait till the butter goes from solid to a completely liquid state. At this point, remove from heat and add the essential oils to it. Stir using a chopstick or a glass stirrer and pour into the mold.

You will need no more than 1 suppository/day. In fact, in most cases, the lubrication provided by one of these lasts for a good 2 days. To use, wash your hands and wipe them clean. Insert into the vagina as you would a tampon and leave it there. While cocoa butter is solid at room temperature, it will melt when exposed to body heat. For best results, use the suppository at night.

5. A massage blend to regulate hormone levels

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits


  • ¼ cup red clover oil (infused)
  • ½ cup jojoba oil
  • 2 tbsp evening primrose oil
  • 8 drops coriander essential oil 
  • 6 drops each of vetiver and geranium essential oil 
  • 5 drops ylang ylang essential oil 
  • 10 drops sweet orange essential oil 


Mix the oils and store in a dark glass bottle. To use, massage over the abdomen with gentle circular strokes for a week. Take a break of 4 days and resume treatment for another 7-day cycle. This oil is best used at night.


Before making any blend that will be used inside the vaginal canal, do sterilize all the pots, stirrers, measuring cups and storage container/bottle that will be used in the process. Also wash your hands properly before preparation.

Ditto for when using the oils/suppository inside the vagina. Do remember to wear clean underwear every day when using any kind of vaginal lubricant, whether homemade or store-bought and do not use soaps or cleansing sprays when treating yourself for vaginal dryness.

Home Remedies For Vaginal Dryness

Essential Oils For Vaginal Dryness: For When The Ol’ Honey Pot Starts To Lose The Honey! Essential Oil Benefits

1. Healthy eating can truly get a lot done

What you eat reflects on all parts of your body, including your vag. So, let go of your food vices, like addiction to sugar, processed foods and refined carbs etc. and switch to the healthy stuff. Particularly, a diet rich in Omega 3 fatty acids will help a lot because it will not only increase vaginal lubrication and moisturize the inner walls of the vaginal canal but also control inflammation of the tissue.

Seafood like tuna, mackerel and salmon; seeds of pumpkin, sesame and sunflower; veggies and fruits rich in beta carotene; legumes, soy and nuts will regulate blood flow to the vagina, thus impacting vaginal lubricity, elasticity and secretions.

2. It is after all water

Yes, mucus comes from the glands and the mucosal lining but it is made from fluids and electrolytes taken from the blood stream. So, hydration is key to maintaining vaginal lubrication, and the proper balance of sodium, potassium and calcium is imperative to ensure hydration all over the body, including at the cellular level.

One thing is for sure, if your body goes dry, your vagina is bound to follow suit. So, get your 8 glasses of water, stay away from carbonated and caffeinated sodas and reduce your intake of caffeine and other diuretics.

The whole of you loves a good workout: I know it can be hard to get up and get moving but 20 minutes of cardio, 3 times a week is all it takes to keep your skin, body, heart and basically all your physiological systems in top shape. Physical activity can work wonders for your ticker and consequently your circulatory system.

More blood flowing everywhere means well-nourished cells that do their job properly. Plus, regular workouts stimulate the adrenal glands and their secretions have a direct impact on the levels of estrogen. Furthermore, sweat it out in the gym and you may get in the mood to sweat it out in the bedroom too.

3. Plants can take over from where your ovaries left off

You may have already heard about phytoestrogens or plant produced estrogen-like compounds. These little guys are Oscar-worthy imposters. They easily fool your body into believing that it has all the estrogen it needs.

Now, this may create issues when you don’t have a problem with the natural production of estrogen but when those ovaries call it a day, these plant-based estrogens can help to limit the detrimental effects of menopause.

Soy products, including tofu, soy milk, and soybeans, all contain isoflavones, as does red clover. Wild yam is also known to be a good source of phytoestrogen and black cohosh has long been used to treat menopause problems, including vaginal dryness.

4. Use her or lose her

Your vagina was never designed to lead a ho-hum and sedentary existence. That baby craves action, so give her some. If you don’t have a man to help out, no big deal. Take matters into your own hands, so to speak.

From sex toys to vibrating panties and even Kegel beads or a jade egg can give your vag a much needed workout. Remember girls if you don’t use those muscles, they are bound to fall weak and this will affect the ability of your vagina to take care of herself. I mean the poor gal can’t be blamed for losing interest in keeping herself all plump and juicy if all those efforts are never going to be put to use.

In Conclusion…

Nearly half of all women in the country and possibly across the world suffer from vaginal dryness. If you have never experienced the condition, you will, considering that almost 50% of all ladies suffer from the lack of vaginal lubrication at some point in their lives.

In fact, many experts consider this estimate to be on the lower side of the actual number of women who are living with vaginal dryness.

This begs the question, why has this problem not garnered more attention if it is so widespread and cuts right through age groups? Well, only we are to be blamed for this girls! You would be surprised at how many women do not discuss vaginal dryness with their doctors or even their partners.

These ladies endure painful sex and risk their relationship with their partners, just because they are too embarrassed to talk about their vagina and its problems. Really girls, how far are you going to let this go?  

This is not a health issue that always goes away on its own and it has the potential to impact your mind, body, relationship and more. If you are suffering from vaginal dryness, get a diagnosis. Then, use natural treatments as far as possible to deal with the condition.

If you have hit menopause, you need to understand that just because Aunt Flo has left the building, your sex life need not come to an end. A lot of women have healthy and happy intimate lives and relationships well into their seventies and even eighties.

So, give yourself and your vagina the deserved love and respect and everything will be fine. And on that note, here is wishing you all a life full of fun and mind-blowing lovemaking!

Rating: 5

Ingrid Moore

Monday 31st of May 2021

Hi Olivia, Hope all is well. Thank you so much for all the information Have a great day Ingrid.


Monday 31st of May 2021

Hi Ingrid,

You're most welcome. Take care.

Regards, Olivia


Thursday 8th of October 2020

Hi Olivia Thanks for the helpful tips... Love the way you explain it... Gives us a smile... I also love my essential oils so I Going to try this for the flushes. Thanks again gor sharing


Friday 16th of October 2020

Thanks Antoinette.


Thursday 20th of February 2020

Thanks for the very informative article...I wish I’d known these things years ago !! I’m 62 next and have suffered painful ( and I mean painful! ) sex since I was about 46 ...which is when my periods stopped..... I was prescribed an oestrogen cream (as penetrating sex was out of the question) which made things tolerable for a while .... and was told of course to have intercourse regular!! In my head I was screaming ( it bloody hurts !😟) ...I have an excellent relationship with my husband,and we’ve coped with this together all these years lobido is none existent now ....I’m just sick of trying ....will these EOs help me now I’m no longer menopausal?? Or is it too late ?


Friday 21st of February 2020

Hi Janet,

The EOs will definitely help, no mater age, health status, etc. You can also read the following post which may be useful: Let me know if you need additional help.

Regards, Olivia


Monday 27th of May 2019

In looking for some of the oils mentioned in your recipes I found both sweet fennel and sea fennel. Which one do you recommend? Thank you.


Tuesday 28th of May 2019

Hi Marta,

Sweet fennel.

Regards, Olivia


Sunday 16th of December 2018

Thank you for such an informative site. Is there any recipe for a vaginal lubricant that would also have a pleasant taste during foreplay? Kind of an embarrassing question but I’m sure others have wondered the same.

Thank you,


Tuesday 18th of December 2018

Hi Cheryl,

You're welcome. You could try something like this:

Click here to read more about vaginal lubricant

Regards, Olivia